We Feed the Hungry,
We Cover the Naked,
We Pardon the Guilty,
We Console the Devastated,
We Calm the Agitated,
But We Curse ourselves for our Mistakes.
Why this Step-Motherly attitude?
Many people are depressed because they can’t face truth, and the truth is that we always act in the best of our capacity. No one loves to be called a loser. No one desires to slip in to a morass and end up his life on a pitiful note. Everyone has a certain level of intellect inherited by chance/destiny and not by choice from his biological parents. Environment shapes the intellect, but again that environment is already decided by birth and no free choice can be exercised. Then why to blame ourselves if we have used all our intellect in the best of our capacity? As humans we are bound to make mistakes and as humans we must learn from our mistakes and use the valuable lessons drawn from our mistakes in improving the standard and quality of our future actions. We must forgive ourselves first before we seek pardon from others.
How do we Slip into Depression?
Does your happiness depend on everything in your life being just right? If you think you can’t be happy until all your circumstances are right, you will never be happy. We all experience times in life when we feel down for various reasons, but we can’t allow our circumstances to control our emotions. Satan seeks to fill our minds with negative thoughts and emotions that cause us to feel down. He is a discourager, and he pulls us down emotionally, spiritually, financially, and in every way he can. But Jesus is our Encourager, and He came to lift us up. He came to give us righteousness, peace and joy, and all these things cause us to feel up!
Everyone experiences times of frustration and distress over unfulfilled hopes and dreams. When things don’t go according to our plans, it is normal to feel disappointment. But we must be careful how we deal with that feeling, because disappointment is the beginning stage of depression. If we remain in a state of disappointment for too long, it can turn into discouragement, despair, and finally depression.
Don’t Trust Your Thoughts and Feelings
Our number one enemy is uncontrolled emotions. We tend to be led by how we feel, but we must realize that feelings are fickle; they change from day to day! We should be careful not to follow every thought that comes to our mind because our thoughts and feelings don’t dictate truth to us.
I’ve learned that staying disappointed can cause me to start feeling discouraged, which is a deeper problem than disappointment. But I’ve also learned that you can’t be hopeful and discouraged at the same time. So as soon as the failures attack us with disappointment and we start feeling discouraged, we need to turn to the Positive Mentality and allow Him to fill us with hope. A brief period of discouragement may not have a devastating effect, but long-term discouragement can lead to depression—a very serious problem.
Resist the Disappointment and Rejoice in Positive Mentality!
Depression is defined in part as “a hollow; being in a low state; a state of sadness; dejection.” The real cause of depression is not where we are, but our attitude about where we find ourselves. It is possible to learn to live on the other side of your feelings. We will always have feelings; they will never go away, but we can make our feelings line up with our decisions. That’s why Nature gave us the blessing of self-control.
If you don’t let the negativities sink into your mind, they can’t oppress you; and if they can’t oppress you, then they can’t depress you. So choose to be led by the Optimism and you can have victory over depression. We can choose to keep a hopeful attitude by renewing our minds with the hopeful stories of our friends and relatives we witnessed conquering all their setbacks and thwarting away this cursedly feeling of loneliness, guilt and and low self-esteem. We can’t control all of our circumstances, but we don’t have to let what happens today ruin tomorrow. We can actually turn things around by making a decision to let go of the situations that caused the disappointment and discouragement, and move toward the good things destiny has planned for our future.
We can’t get past depression until we quit making excuses and blaming everyone else. We must face the truth and take responsibility for our actions. When we do that, the spirit of heaviness leaves us and we feel light and free. Being depressed about circumstances does not change them, and it is a total waste of time and a thief of joy. So we must stop letting our feelings, mind, body, and past experiences rule us and allow God to give us a fresh plan, a new idea, a new goal!